I’m Home! Now What Do I Do?

A Woman New to Homemaking

        Welcome home!  Congratulations on becoming a homemaker!  The rewards of this role are of inestimable worth!  Below a few things are shared that can help make your transition smooth and have you on your way to sailing into homemaking bliss:

1. Don’t Believe Homemaker Stereotypes - Don’t believe that all homemakers are like June Cleaver or Peg Bundy.  Not all homemakers are excellent, not all homemakers are nurturing mothers, and not all homemakers are lazy, spendthrifts, and ill-kept in appearance.  You are you, and the homemaker you become is completely up to you.  No stereotypes, no molds – break the mold and become the homemaking woman you are created to be!

2. Give Homemaking a Real Chance - Perhaps you’re giving homemaking a try, but really think that you will get bored or not like it much.  Most women who are bored with homemaking fail to really give it the effort it deserves, and if they do, they may fail to explore creativity in homemaking and enrich their lives by volunteer work a few hours a week or month.  Go the extra mile in homemaking and gain the skills required to homemake well, and find joy in creating for your family home.  This is an amazing world full of possibility and happiness, now that you’re here, embrace it and give it all you’ve got!

3. Realize Your Worth in this Role – There is no way to underestimate the value and worth of a devoted homemaker, click here to read a past post that delves into this a bit more, if you’d like, and click here to read “The New Women’s Movement: We’re Coming Home” that explains some of the multitude of things that such a homemaker does and their worth.

4. Don’t Believe that You’ll be Poor - A family can be very well-off financially and rich in many ways, regardless of its size, on the husband’s income alone.  There may be an adjustment phase at the beginning of your being a homemaker in which times are tight financially, but this can be worked-out as you go through it. There is no need to worry that you’ll always have to buy nothing but thrift store items and that your children will have to wear hand-me-downs from others, that you’ll never be able to afford to get your hair done, never have a family vacation, and have to eat cheap, inferior quality foods, all because you don’t provide any income.  You are in a position to be an extraordinarily wise investor, and in so doing, can contribute more to your family’s economy than many women who work outside or inside of the home for money.  Click here and here for two past posts containing information on this subject, if you’d like.

5. You don’t need to Bring in an Income – You’re a homemaker; this is a more than full-time job.  You have a lot of things to do as a homemaker in addition to fulfilling your role as devoted wife and mother.  Your family’s health, safety, welfare, and happiness depends in very large part upon how you do your job as a devoted wife, mother, and homemaker.  Your business, your profession, is making your house a home, which takes a lot of time, thought, and work.  In addition, if you are raising children, especially homeschooling them, you have a full plate.  You can learn to make it on your husband’s income alone, and make it very well.  Learn to live on your husband’s income, to invest it as only you can, and make your house a home and you’ll be extraordinarily rich in far more than money.

6. Enjoy Yourself – Being a devoted wife, mother, and homemaker does require work, but it can be, and is for many women, the most enjoyable, rewarding work on earth.  Enjoy what you’re doing and be creative, let yourself go into creating your family’s one-of-a-kind home and life.  You are free to create a masterpiece home and family, free to take materials or ideas and make them into unique things for your family.  The possibilities of the outstanding life you can create for your family are endless.  Explore this, enjoy this!

7. Educate Yourself – Now that you are a homemaker, you have time to become an extraordinarily well-read woman.  There is a lot to know about decorating, family health, homemaking, and such that can keep you busy learning, and there’s also a wealth of knowledge to be found on probably anything a woman is curious about or would like to know more about.  You have the time to schedule time to learn, to broaden your mind, to really become an outstanding wife, mother, and homemaker as well as a very liberally educated woman.  You needn’t take college courses to do this, just read and self-study.  A well-read homemaker can be extraordinarily interesting to speak with and such a delightful woman to know. 

8. Become Yourself – You have the time to really get to know yourself because you’re your own boss, on your own time, and “running your own show” (as the old saying goes).  You have time to polish-up areas of yourself that need it, time to see things that need changing about yourself and change them, and time to really think about – and create – the life – your life – that you want.  There is no more “what others require of you” like there was at the workplace, it’s what you require of you now.  Your mind and body aren’t working to do a job for someone else for pay, you’re doing a job for you and your family, and you’re free to think about whatever you’d like, not what the boss requires or paying job outside or from the home requires.

9. Build Your Marriage – A happy, healthy marriage is the foundation of the home, so work to make yours the best it can be: one of Celestial Love, mutual dignity and respect, and deep adoration.  To do this, get a copy of the 2007 (the latest) edition of Fascinating Womanhood by Mrs. Helen Andelin, read it, and apply its teachings.  There are online courses and live study groups to go with this book, and participating in one of these is highly recommended.  No matter how clean and materially comfy a home is, if one’s marriage isn’t happy, the home isn’t. 

10. Learn the Skills Necessary to Do Your Job – To be a successful homemaker one needs skill in how to do the job.  There’s sometimes more to many homemaking jobs than meets the eye.  Become an expert and do your job as such.  The book Home Comforts: The Art and Science of Keeping House by Cheryl Mendelson is an outstanding, modern, how-to book for all facets of homemaking, from washing dishes to piano care to caring for books properly to setting the table and everything else!  Get a copy of this book and refer to it for any homemaking job you need to learn how to do, would like to know more about, or would like to learn to do correctly.

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        Again, welcome home to the world of homemaking!  This world – your world - is completely unique and one-of-a-kind; no one else in the world can make your family’s home what you can.  So much of your family’s life (and remember, you are a part of your family) revolves around the home you create, give them what they (and you) deserve, which is your very best!  Excelsior!

Do Fascinating Women Wear Pants, Skirts, or Dresses? (Great Link Included)

        Whichever they choose.  The key to all is femininity - that the clothing enhances feminine beauty and accentuates the differences between women and men.  Dresses and skirts are the most feminine of apparel for Fascinating Women and are more highly recommended than pants because they draw a clear line of distinction between the sexes.  Mrs. Andelin wrote on page 273 of the latest (2007) edition of Fascinating Womanhood the following about pants, quoted here with permission:

“Should women wear pants?  Pants are not the most feminine of dress.  You can wear them, however, if of a feminine material and style, and a color becoming to you.  Soften the masculine effect by wearing a feminine top, accessories, and hairstyle.  If you have a chunky figure, be sure the pants are not too tight.  Better if they are a little loose.  Unless you are very young, avoid denims and fabrics used by men.” 

        Recently FW~A reader Lydia shared a link to a website that offers extraordinarily beautiful feminine dresses, skirts, tops, and even pants.  *Click here for a link to some absolutely beautiful, decidedly feminine pants, if you’d like; and thank you, Lydia, for the link!

       

*Please note that I do not participate in affiliate programs.  I haven’t ordered from this company, so don’t recommend them, but am sharing the link because of the remarkably beautiful, inspiring, feminine clothing that is shown there.

FW~A (Near) Daily Encouragement: FW is Helpful to Single Mothers

        Mrs. Helen Andelin, authoress of the best-selling book for wives Fascinating Womanhood wrote of how its teachings are helpful for single mothers on page five of the 2007 (latest) edition, quoted with permission:

“The teachings are also helpful to the single mother who is rearing a family without a father present in the home.  She becomes the feminine image for her children to view, as essential to boys in developing their manliness as to girls in developing their womanliness.  She should also teach them about masculinity by providing them with a male image to associate with – her father, a brother, or another male person.”

        In writing of another male person, of course Mrs. Andelin doesn’t mean intruding on another woman’s marriage and family life, but by finding an excellent, wholesome male role model.  Big Brothers and similar groups may be good places to find such men.

        Another way that Fascinating Womanhood can help single mothers is by helping them become women that chivalrous, kind men, “good guys” would like to get to know better.  A Fascinating Woman is a woman who is a good mother and has proper self-esteem, dignity, excellent character, and femininity and thus will attract men who appreciate these things and treasure her for them. 

        A Fascinating Single Mother is also chaste, meaning that she lives a sexually pure life.  This is actually a big deal.  She is free from the worry of catching a life changing and even life-ending sexually transmitted diseases and those whom she dates are free from worry of catching them from her.  She and the lucky man who she attracts are free to get to know each other with no sexual pressure.  This is also a big deal to her children, for it is respect-worthy and prevents a lot of upset that so often occurs when one’s single mother is sexually promiscuous or active with any, many, or all of the men she dates.

        If a woman is a single mother with no interest in remarrying or even dating, this book is still very helpful (see Mrs. Andelin’s quote above).

        If you are a single mother, please consider picking-up a copy of Fascinating Womanhood.  This book could be exactly what you’ve been looking for or need for inspiration and happiness.  The latest, 2007 edition is recommended.

FW~A (Near) Daily Encouragement: A Stark Contrast

        Picture in your mind a female mechanic at work.  She is dirty and grimy and wearing coveralls with a wrench in her hand – close your eyes for a moment and really get a good picture of her in your mind.  Then picture in your mind a woman in a beautiful, flowing cotton garden dress with a beautifully feminine garden hat sitting in a very feminine way in a flower garden.  She is clean, has radiant health, nicely arranged hair, and is holding a bouquet of flowers that one of her children or her husband has picked for her from the flower garden  – again, close your eyes for a moment and really get a good picture of her in your mind. 

        The thoughts that come to mind and the feelings produced while picturing the mechanic compared to the ones produced by the garden lady are interesting, aren’t they? To a gentleman, the thoughts and feelings produced from seeing two such women are even more profound.

 

More Time in a Day

Note: This is an very recently updated, 2012 version of an article that was originally published years ago on a couple of different websites (not here).  If a homemaker puts the information found in this article into practice, she will find success with her personal time management and more happiness in homemaking due to doing her job well.  If you are a young homemaker and begin your amazing, God-created role in the home by applying what is taught in this article, you will be starting your home on a solid, made-to-last, quality foundation. 

More Time in a Day

By Mrs. Wayne Hunter

© Copyright 2004 – 2012, All Rights Reserved

Below are some tips on how to make more out of the time that you have.

Pray. Before you begin your day, pray to God.

Don’t be selfish. Your family and you deserve your very best, as well as a clean home and wholesome meals. You all deserve a homemaker who devotes herself to making sure that her family is completely taken care of.

Declutter, thoroughly clean and organize your home. Do this one room at a time. An excellent way to get started is to remember these two things:

  • If it’s not useful or beautiful, throw it out! Have a garbage can and several garbage bags for the garbage, have a box or so for charity, and a box for collectibles, such as heirlooms, that can’t be thrown away but need to be stored. Go through everything, including drawers, closets, bookshelves, corners, cabinets and whatever else is in the room.
  • Next comes the thorough cleaning. Wipe off, dust, polish, wash, scrub; do whatever it takes to get the room thoroughly clean. Don’t forget walls, ceilings and baseboards.

You will most likely find after the decluttering that you have a lot more room to put things, therefore, the organization of your items comes next. Find a space to neatly place everything. Don’t forget: one room at a time is the way to go with this. Trying to declutter, thoroughly clean and organize more than one room at a time can leave you frustrated, take a lot longer, and may be less thoroughly done than going one room at a time. Also, going one room at a time, you can see your results more quickly, thus leading to more motivation to go on to the next room. This is initially time-consuming, good old-fashioned hard work, but the benefits are great. You have a beautiful home, you save a lot of time by maintaining a clean home rather than shuffling a mess and clutter around, and it’s so much easier to maintain a home that is organized and clutter-free. Declutter, thoroughly clean, and organize your home at least twice a year. A suggestion on when to do this would be once in the summer and once in the winter.

Get up earlier and stay up later. This is the golden key to success for the round-the-clock homemaker! The famous Proverbs 31 wife and mother rose while it was yet night and let not her candle go out by night – meaning that she got up early and stayed up late. Don’t deprive yourself of a good night’s sleep, but there is much to be accomplished in these hours. If you have small children or even older ones, set a bedtime for them, and you go to bed a few hours later. While the children are in bed, you can get a whole lot of housework done. You might well be amazed at how much quicker you can get household jobs done when you are on your own time. (This is an especially good time to do jobs that cannot yet be handled by little hands. Your children should obviously be taught to do household chores as they are able during the day, which will eventually free up more of your time.)

Getting up earlier has the same benefits. Both getting up earlier and staying up later also provide the benefit of you having time for yourself. You can do a great deal of reflecting and thinking at these times. You could use some of the time to study. One great way to study while working is to purchase the Scourby Bible CDs. These are audio CDs of the King James Version of the Bible that are outstanding. The reader has such a pleasant voice and reads straight from the Bible; no commentary, nothing but The Pure Word of God; they are so touching. They are a great way to study and an absolutely uplifting way to enjoy your time.  For more information on them, you can visit their website at this link or call 1-800-237-0785.  Scourby readings used to be available with the Old and New Testamanents for sale individually, but this option doesn’t seem to exist anymore. For women looking for an audio version of The Tanakh, click here for purchase and other information about the JPS version. Click here for free book-by-book and chapter-by-chapter mp3 downloads of The Hebrew Bible in the Hebrew language, if you’d like.

By getting up earlier and staying up later, you can enjoy more time with your husband and children, as you won’t be anxious to get the housework done when they need your time and attention. You can tend to their needs instead of being overwhelmed by the amount of work that needs to be done. You will have to figure out what gets done and what doesn’t at these opportune times, but one thing’s for sure: you’ll enjoy the fruits of your labors!

Make most of the food for the day in the early morning. This ensures that you will have healthy food for each meal. An example would be to make three loaves of bread in the early morning while everyone else is sleeping (one loaf per meal), put on a big pot of beans so that they’ll be ready by lunch, and you will have plenty left for supper that you can make chili with in a jiffy. Make homemade pudding so that it can set up well in the refrigerator for lunch and supper. You could also slice and cut fresh fruits and vegetables and put them on trays for the lunch and or supper, make a nice salad, etc. Stews, roasts, soups, and baked items are all good foods to make once for the whole day.  Click here to read more about this.

Make a menu. Each week plan a nutritious menu and then plan once-a-week grocery shopping by it. Having a menu can save you lots of money, as you will have a guide and the groceries on hand to make the meals you have planned, rather than shopping nightly (which can lead to picking up a lot of unnecessary and costly items) or picking up fast foods because you haven’t planned. Also, by planning a menu, you can see in writing your family’s eating habits and correct areas of concern by planning good, wholesome, nutritious, and well-balanced foods for your family.

Observe the Sabbath Day and keep it Holy.

“Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days shalt thou labor and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the Sabbath of the LORD thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates: For in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day, and hallowed it.” ~ Exodus 20:8-11

This is the fourth of the Ten Commandments. Work the first six days of the week, then rest and enjoy a day off. Sabbath is a beautiful, beautiful day.

“If thou turn away thy foot from the Sabbath, from doing thy pleasure on My holy day; and call the Sabbath a delight, the holy of the Lord, honourable; and shalt honour Him, not doing thine own ways, nor finding thine own pleasure, nor speaking thine own words: Then shalt thou delight thyself in the LORD; and I will cause thee to ride upon the high places of the earth, and feed thee with the heritage of Jacob thy father; for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it.” ~ Isaiah 58:13-14

Eat not the bread of idleness. Don’t be lazy. Get your work done before you take time for pleasure. Wiling away hours in front of the television, speaking on the phone or in person, spending countless time in front of the computer for entertainment purposes, sitting around reading novels, and such all take a lot bigger chunk out of time than you might imagine. There is a time for taking the time to entertain yourself, but if your husband, children, or you are being neglected in some way, your laundry is out of control, dishes are piled up in the kitchen, or the house is a mess, etc. then it’s time to get busy taking care of things. Idleness will get you nowhere fast. By working hard, you save time and money–not to mention that you feel much better about your family and yourself. Make yourself keep that laundry taken care of and the house clean. It may not be easy at first, but once you get into the swing of it and receive the abundant blessings, it may easily become your way of life.

Give your children age appropriate chores and make sure that they do them. Even a toddler can pick up his own toys and put them in the toy box. There are “chore charts” available, and if you don’t know where to start, maybe you could check into them. You can’t expect a two-year-old to use an adult mop and broom, but he can fold washcloths for you and pick up around the house. There are several things that younger and older children can do to help out around the house, and in teaching them to do so, the child is shown that he is an important part of a functioning family, and you have a little extra help. Make sure that your children are shown exactly how to keep their rooms clean, and then make sure that they do it by having nightly checks about an hour before bed. If the room isn’t to specification, have them get it to specification while you’re in the room. But please do heed this warning about giving your children chores, and this is to not overburden them with adult-sized jobs; that they aren’t given dangerous or exhausting work that is beyond their developmental stage and capacity. Since children are smaller physically and haven’t the amount of years of doing the housework as you, they most often just can’t get the job done as quickly or efficiently as an adult. Give them a chore or two, enough time to do them well, teach them to appreciate the beauty of their work, and then give them plenty of time for play and education. This is especially true of an older girl child. It is very easy to overburden our preteen or teenage daughters when they get old enough to take over a lot of household chores and baby tending. They need to see that Momma works, too – not that she is a taskmaster who wants others to do everything while she relaxes. Work together, and work will become more meaningful and beautiful.

Take time every day to study something of interest to you that is helpful to your family. This is not idly wasting time. A good time to do this is in the morning or night when it’s quiet and after all of the housework is caught up or at nap time for the children. You can also study right alongside of your homeschooling children if you homeschool.

Clean while you go about your work. It’s a whole lot easier and less time-consuming to rinse out a pan that you just cooked in than to wait for hours to do it. It’s a whole lot easier and less time-consuming to mop or wipe up a mess when it happens than it is to leave it to get sticky; not to mention that doing this is a lot more hygienic.

Make a list of all your homemaking jobs and how often they are to be done, then make a schedule. Here’s an example of such a list:

  • Daily: make beds, sweep all floors, wash dishes (as many times a day as needed), prepare three meals and one or two snacks, dust furniture, wash, fold and put away laundry (maybe several times a day, depending on sizes and ages of the members of your family), washing off the bathroom sink, tidying up, etc.
  • Every Other Day: mopping, dusting, etc.
  • Once a Week: thoroughly cleaning the bathroom (may need to be done twice a week, depending on family size), cleaning the furniture, washing and drying bedding (may need to be done more than once a week, depending on your preferences or if the need be), cleaning out and washing out the refrigerator, cleaning outside your home, etc.

Then make a schedule of not only your jobs, but of all the things that you need to get done during the day. Remember, it takes time to adjust to anything new. Don’t become disheartened, worried, or sad if you don’t get everything done the first few tries, but do keep at it and work things out to perfectly suit you and your family. Soon you won’t need charts or schedules or anything like that, and your house will be running much more smoothly. And a great reward for your efforts will be that, God willing, there will come a day when on many days you have everything done and have free time!

Discouraging Younger Women

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To Older Women…

        It’s very easy for older women to make remarks or comments to or in front of younger women that are discouraging.  We ought to be very careful about this, for we are to instruct the younger women, not destruct them.  Oftentimes many of these comments are “off the cuff” remarks and aren’t given much thought by those saying or writing them, but can burn down into the innermost parts of a young woman’s impressionable mind.

 

 

        Disparaging remarks by older women about children are a big discouragement.  Perhaps a woman comes to church and is overheard telling someone that she is with child for the fourth time.  An older woman chimes in or says to someone else something along the lines of ‘Doesn’t she know what birth control’s for?’  Or the disparaging isn’t verbal, but is in one’s expression: a roll of the eyes, a mouth that purses and a head shake, a frown.  God hates a proud and haughty look as much as He hates arrogance; this type of reaction is wrong as it is hurtful and hateful.  Children are a gift from God, all children, and regardless of what we may personally think about a child’s mother, earthly father, or family, we must remember that each human born is another chance for all of us to hope – this child is a gift and a human being worthy of love and worthy to be valued as much as anyone else.  The same God we serve created him or her, too.    

        Disparaging remarks about husbands can lead to arguments in the homes of other women.  Hearing a woman speak badly about her husband is a poison.  I am not referring to a woman in a counseling session with a therapist working-out issues, I am referring to a woman who “bad mouths” her husband in public.  It is very easy for younger women to hear such things and think, ‘Yeah, my husband does that, too,’ or ‘If my husband ever did that I’d…’ and then this topic becomes a somewhat hot topic between a husband and wife, and before one knows it, an argument.

        Disparaging remarks about housework:  Making light of a homemaker’s  job as concerns running her home or encouraging younger women to give up by stating or writing that running a smooth home can’t be done is discouraging.  On the other hand, pitying a homemaker and saying things like ‘I don’t see how you do it all’  in a condescending or questioning tone is disparaging and discouraging, too, like one is expecting to see this woman fail.  Plenty of younger wives, mothers, and women run their homes like clock-work and do an excellent job; it’s not impossible, it’s not overwhelming, and it makes a woman and a home very often feel very, very good.   

        Disparaging remarks about God-created womanhood:  Even stating, “I’d have gone crazy if I’d have stayed home with my children.” and things along those lines are destructive.  If one didn’t stay home, she can’t actually know that she’d have truly gone crazy.  If a woman tried to stay home and didn’t succeed, it was most likely because she didn’t give it her all or perhaps even very much real effort, or perhaps she just didn’t realize how many opportunities existed to create an amazing and fulfilling home and personal life.  It’s not worth discouraging others just because of a personal experience.

To Younger Women…

        The majority of disparaging remarks made by older women are usually the result of one or more of the following three things:

1.  Ignorance.  These women just don’t realize the power of words.  These women can also be ignorant of how to be successful in their own and home lives and may just be settled into “getting by”, that the current American way of life (dysfunction or barely functioning) is all that can be expected of anyone.  They probably don’t mean to be hurtful and actually have no idea that a better life awaits any woman, that children can be the most enjoyable, loveable, fulfilling human beings on earth, and that a marriage that is akin to heaven on earth can exist.  But you know that a better life awaits, that children are treasures beyond value, and that marriage is created to be exquisitely and immensely powerful and pleasurable, and you, by reading *Mrs. Andelin’s and other related books and writings, and most importantly by seeking God’s leadership, know exactly where to find information and encouragement to become the woman you want to be.

2.  Arrogance.  Some older women, inside and outside of churches, think it’s funny or that they appear “big” or “wise”, funny, or even clever by making disparaging remarks about other human beings (husbands, children, other people) and the importance of maintaining a smooth running home.  What they are actually doing is displaying utter arrogance.  Watch out for arrogant women and head the other way.  They are not humble, they are not meek, and they aren’t speaking or behaving wisely.   

3.  The fruits of their own trees are “sour grapes“.  They didn’t devote themselves completely to their own marriages, families, and betterment of themselves, didn’t find the true paths to happiness and a good life, for whatever reason, and reason that no one else can find the paths of goodness and truth just because they didn’t or that it is impossible for any woman to succeed fully.  Maybe it’s too late for them to re-raise their children or get back an ex-husband, but it’s never too late for them to love themselves and do better.  Just don’t listen to such a woman’s unwise words on the surface, but listen to the woman speaking on the inside.  Maybe she’s hurting, discouraged, and given-up herself.  Maybe your standing strong and becoming a woman of excellence through-and-through will be just the light she needs to find happiness herself and turn whatever grapes she has left on the vine into a sweet, bountiful harvest!

        A note to younger women:  Don’t let any older women discourage you.  Don’t be disrespectful to your elders regarding this, just purpose in your heart to do things differently than those who discourage so that you don’t end-up like them.  Many older women need womanly encouragement themselves or they wouldn’t be so discouraging (it comes from somewhere inside of them, discouragement does).  Be a light, be an example, seek true wisdom, knowledge, instruction, and understanding, the kind that comes from God through asking Him for it in heartfelt, earnest prayer; He’ll show you the way, and let your eyes not turn from this True knowledge.  In so doing you will be encouraged, and encouraging, and in this day and age, the gift of encouragement is of tremendous worth on earth, as it is in Heaven .

 

        Every word we say or write is important and will be called into judgement by God.  It is worth working towards making everything that we say and write kind and wise.  I know that I need to work on this myself.  Let us refine ourselves and be refined by God in this area, if He will so bless us, until all of our words reflect wisdom and kindness.

 

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*Referring to Mrs. Helen Andelin’s outstanding books Fascinating Womanhood and All About Raising Children, and other writings.  Click here to learn more about them.

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