Moral Courage in the Movies (Fun Weekly Assignment Included!)

Moral courage is one of the ten qualities of a Fascinating Woman’s Worthy Character.  Mrs. Helen Andelin, authoress of the best-seller Fascinating Womanhood wrote the following, quoted with permission, about it on page 238 of the 2007 edition of the book:

“Moral courage is the courage to do what is right, at the risk of unpleasant or even painful consequences, such as criticism, humiliation, loss of friends, loss of money, loss of position, or even bodily harm.”

        This week’s assignment is to watch, and discuss, two movies: one with your children, and one with your husband, about moral courage.

        The first movie, to watch and afterwards discuss with your children, is Horton Hears a Who starring Jim Carrey and Carol Burnett.  Click here, if you’d like, to learn more about this movie.  You could even watch it before and make a lesson to go with it to share with your children.

        The second movie is an excellent in-home date night movie to watch and afterwards discuss with your husband, it is To Kill a Mockingbird starring Gregory Peck.  Click here to learn more about the movie and here for a past post about “making time for love” that may be helpful in arranging a date night.

        Both of these movies really make moral courage clear and can even inspire moral courage in viewers!

FW~A (Near) Daily Encouragement: A Femininity Self-Analysis (Near Weekly Assignment Included)

        The following femininity self-analysis is shared here, with permission, from page ninety-four of the official Fascinating Womanhood Workbook for Students:

“The Feminine Appearance”

“An Analysis of Your Femininity:”

Hair: ___ I wear my hair in a feminine style. ___ I shampoo once a week or more.

___ My hair looks healthy. It has shine. ___ My hair style is becoming to my face.

___ I look in the mirror several times a day, to see if my hair needs fixing.

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Makeup: ___ I don’t need to wear makeup. I look good without it.

___ I wear enough makeup to look my very best.

___ I have learned to apply makeup with skill. ___ I apply makeup each morning.

___ I look in the mirror before my husband returns, to see if my makeup needs fixing.

~ ~ ~ 

Clothes: ___ I don’t wear masculine type clothes. ___ I wear feminine dresses at home.

___ I wear pants only for sports, cleaning, and outings. ___ My pants are all feminine.

___ My shirts are all feminine. ___ My suits are feminine. ___ I want to look feminine.

___ I don’t have many feminine clothes, but plan to buy or make them.

~ ~ ~

Shoes and Accessories: ___ My shoes look feminine. ___ My purses look feminine.”

FW~A (Near) Weekly Assignment:

        Use the self-analysis above to help you find three things you can improve upon this week to gain a more feminine appearance.

A Calling/Texting Experiment for Fascinating Women (Near Weekly Assignment Included)

A Homemaker Chatting on the Phone

        The experiment/assignment below will likely only work well if you are a woman who is applying or applies the principles of Fascinating Womanhood.  If you are not applying these principles, I don’t know how your husband may respond or how you will feel, so I don’t recommend any wife trying this until she has begun reading and applying the principles of Fascinating Womanhood, 2007 edition, by Mrs. Helen Andelin (click here to read about attaining a free copy of this book, if you’d like).  However, among women who are actively applying the principles of FW and bettering themselves and their marriages daily, the following information has worked very well.  Why not give it a try and see how it works in your own Fascinating Marriage?

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       Many wives call or text their husbands quite a bit while their husbands are working. If any wife ever feels like or is told by her husband that she calls/texts too much and it hurts her feelings, here’s some information that may be helpful. Stop texting and calling unless it’s really, really important – for example your toddler falls off a swingset and needs to see the doctor for stitches and you need your husband to meet you at the doctor’s office – or a set time that your husband has asked or let it be known that he would like for you to call/text him.

        This reduction in the number of text/call contacts isn’t to be done out of spite or as a ‘get back’ sort of thing, it’s to be done as a courtesy and to help the wife develop more of a sense of duty in her role; there is plenty of enough to do in our roles as devoted wives, mothers, homemakers, and as women who share charitable works in our communities,
to keep us too busy to idly chat or text.

        To a good many wives surprise, when they stop texting or calling, their husbands begin to call or text them! The husbands usually ask if everything’s okay or mention that they noticed their wives haven’t contacted them. When the wife pleasantly states that it is because she’s busy and knows that he is, too, or something pleasant and honest like that, it brings a sense dignity to her in her husband’s eyes as well as her own. He may ask that she begin calling or texting him again, and if so, it’s helpful to say something wonderful like, “I’ll definitely work on making time for that.  You’re definitely worth it.” Then do just that, but keep the contacts moderate and *pleasant.

        After a short time, the husband and wife will find a balance in contacting each other during the day that works well for both of them, is constructive to their marriage, and conducive to both thriving in their roles.

*There may be times, such as when a sink breaks and water is flowing everywhere, that the calls or texts will be more of an urgent, rather than a totally pleasant, nature.

FW~A (Near) Daily Encouragement: Mission Magnanimous (Assignment Included)

        Click here to read the definition of the word “magnanimous”, if you’d like.  Are you a magnanimous woman, wife, mother, homemaker, and friend?  If not, the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood can help you to become one. 

        This week’s FW~A assignment is to work on refining ourselves to become magnanimous Fascinating Women:

For All Women - Take a sheet of blank paper, write the word “Magnanimous” on it with its definition (both listed) from the link above, decorate it in a beautiful way so that it is an inspiring pleasure to look at, and hang it somewhere in your home so that you will see it several times throughout the day.  It is your beautiful reminder to be the magnanimous woman God created you to be.  It can also lead to a discussion of this wonderful character trait among family members and visitors; a woman shouldn’t even mention the assignment or that she is working towards becoming a magnanimous woman, she can just state that it’s there for the sheer beauty and inspiriation of the word if anyone asks about it or mentions it.  Don’t be discouraged if someone makes a disparaging remark about the word or any human’s work to achieve this traitbe magnanimous about it - it can be an excellent way to cultivate the trait!

If you have already read Fascinating Womanhood and apply many of its teachings, re-read chapters one through five and twelve through seventeen, and apply, refine, and enhance what is needed from each. 

If you have never read Fascinating Womanhood, read the book and apply the teachings.  To get more out of it, consider taking a Fascinating Womanhood course online from an authorized teacher: Click here for information on the free Fascinating Womanhood course offered by Fascinating Womanhood ~ Alaska.  Click here and here for course information from two other authorized online teachers – both charge for their courses, but seem worth the cost.

If you are a magnanimous woman who lives the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood, lead a live, local Fascinating Womanhood study group in your area.  Click here for more information on doing this.  The need for these live study groups, led by magnanimous Fascinating Women, is tremendous.   

 

A Fascinating Movie Recommendation: Falling from One’s Pedestal (Near Weekly Assignment Included)

A Woman on a Pedestal

        Women familiar with or living the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood know about the character of a Fascinating Woman which is made-up of the following traits:

1. Self-Mastery – The keys of which are having self-worth, fasting and prayer, training the will, and being determined.

2. Unselfishness

3. Charity – Which includes a compassion for others, perceiving their needs, and if necessary, sacrificing for them.

4. Humility

5. Responsibility

6. Diligence

7. Patience – This includes patience with people, patience with duties, and patience with desires, and having the patience to look towards “The Brighter Day” (this means having dealing with the “rainy days of life” – more about this can be found by clicking here).

8. Moral Courage

9. Honesty

and

10. Chastity

        When a wife has and lives all of these qualities, her husband (and often others who really know her) can’t help but to mentally place her on a pedestal.  She is a woman of strength, honour, dignity, and goodness to look up to; she is a refuge to so many who need such a divinely inspired, inspirational woman.  To see her fall from this pedestal is so hurtful to feelings, can cause such a sense of loss of hope and goodness, and can really make one hurt so badly for the woman who falls; the whole experience is such a loss to everyone involved.  This isn’t to say that such a fall is the end of the world or a relationship, but that it is damage that needs to be repaired as quickly and fully as possible, and in all actuality, most often will take much time to repair, and if this reparation isn’t really devoted to, can never be fully restored.

        A woman who falls from her pedestal can, with humility, strength, and devotion, mature from the experience and bring out facets in her that weren’t fully seen before, thus the love between her and her husband can grow stronger in ways that it hadn’t; yet still, damage is damage and can take a whole lot to repair and restore, so it’s best to devote oneself to reaching pedestal status and continue to love ourselves and others enough to stay there without falling, without fail - and in so doing, be the strength of a Godly woman that the world so desperately needs.

        An excellent movie example of the affects of falling from one’s pedestal can be found in the 1996 version of the movie Emma starring Gwyneth Paltrow (more information on it can be found at this link http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0116191/).  This movie is chosen because it contains an excellent example of a woman falling from her pedestal in her love’s eyes.

        I won’t spoil the movie by revealing information about the pedestal falling scene, but believe each of you will see it when it happens; how a man who holds a woman in such high regards can have his image of her shattered by such a fall, and how a woman in love will sense this, pick-up the pieces, and try her best to regain footing not only for the man she loves, but for the love of herself and others, as well. Such love, such regard for a woman who a man senses is in so many ways like an angel on earth, is edifying, and makes the man, the woman he loves, and our world better. A chivalrous man will not accept a woman’s fall from her pedestal and do nothing about it, or just as bad, be destructive to her over it – he will be strong, firm, and chivalrous, believing in her better side and patiently waiting for it to return bigger, better, and stronger than ever. This is love that grows.

This Week’s Assignment…

        If you are a woman who lives the teachings of FW, this week’s assignment is to obtain a copy of the aforementioned version of the movie Emma (there are other versions, but I’ve not seen them and don’t know how they relate the scene mentioned – they could represent it differently and the meaning of this lesson could be lost to a degree), if possible, and make a date with yourself (and an older daughter, if you’d like) to watch it this week.  It can really deepen the teachings from FW on character and broaden your insight about its worth to the love of your life, yourself, and others.  After watching it, re-read the chapter of FW about worthy character and think about its importance in your life and in the lives of the ones you love and know. 

        If you haven’t read or really applied the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood, or would like to learn about acquiring the character traits mentioned, get a copy of the 2007 (the latest) edition, read it, apply the teachings, and then come back to this lesson or watch it in conjunction with reading chapter sixteen “A Worthy Character”. 

        If you have been a Fascinating Woman and have fallen from your pedestal, watch this movie and prayerfully devote yourself to getting back on your pedestal, take the action needed this week to do this.  If you find that you’ve really slipped far from the teachings, you may need to start at the beginning of the book and work your way through it; taking a live or online Fascinating Womanhood course can be very helpful in getting back on track with its teachings, too.

        Your local library may have a free copy of this movie; it is currently available at amazon.com for $6.49 (brand new, not used) plus shipping at this non-FW~A affiliated link http://www.amazon.com/Emma-Gwyneth-Paltrow/dp/B004SIP7AS/ref=pd_cp_mov_0 .

Taking Account in Homemaking (Includes Weekly Assignment)

        Mrs. Andelin teaches in Fascinating Womanhood that a homemaker should have a place for everything and everything in its place.  She said that should someone in the family need something in the middle of the night he or she should be able to find it without turning on a light.  Is your home in this condition at this moment?  If the answer is yes, you are sincerely impressive.  If your answer is no, then help can be found in the information below.

Taking Account in Homemaking

        Taking account in homemaking doesn’t mean making financial statements or anything like that, it literally means taking a count of the items one has, making it easy to then see what you really need so that you can run your home like a top.  Doing this does have financial benefits in that you will clearly see what you have and honestly need – this can save a whole lot of money.  Complete the steps below this week, if you’d like to, to take account in your homemaking!

Steps to Taking Account in Homemaking:

1. Totally clean one’s house.  The best way to do this is to:

Declutter, thoroughly clean and organize your home. Do this one room at a time. An excellent way to get started is to remember these two things:

  • If it’s not useful or beautiful, throw it out! Have a garbage can and several garbage bags for the garbage, have a box or so for charity, and a box for collectibles, such as heirlooms, that can’t be thrown away but need to be stored. Go through everything, including drawers, closets, bookshelves, corners, cabinets and whatever else is in the room.
  • Next comes the thorough cleaning. Wipe off, dust, polish, wash, scrub; do whatever it takes to get the room thoroughly clean. Don’t forget walls, ceilings and baseboards.

        You will most likely find after the decluttering that you have a lot more room to put things, therefore, the organization of your items comes next. Find a space to neatly place everything. Don’t forget: one room at a time is the way to go with this. Trying to declutter, thoroughly clean and organize more than one room at a time can leave you frustrated, take a lot longer, and may be less thoroughly done than going one room at a time. Also, going one room at a time, you can see your results more quickly, thus leading to more motivation to go on to the next room. This is initially time-consuming, good old-fashioned hard work, but the benefits are great. You have a beautiful home, you save a lot of time by maintaining a clean home rather than shuffling a mess and clutter around, and it’s so much easier to maintain a home that is organized and clutter-free.  (This information is quoted from the article “More Time in a Day” that can be found by clicking here.)

2. Organize realistically, don’t be extreme.  Most homemakers don’t need labels stuck on every drawer and cabinet, nor do they need thousands of things to do their multi-faceted job of homemaking well.  As Mrs. Andelin used to write, “whittle life down to the bone”, meaning simplify realistically.  Don’t be extreme in simplifying, either, by throwing-out things that are actually useful in an effort to trim-down the contents of one’s home.  As in almost all things, the key is thoughtful, wise moderation.

3. Make a list of the things you need or would really like to have to make your family’s home run the way you ideally want it to.  If you need to save money for any of these things, work saving it into your budget, if possible.  For example, you need four new drinking glasses – you can look at your grocery list and see if there are a few really unneccessary items on there, such as ice cream sandwiches and colas, and instead spend the money saved on the glasses.  Make this list realistic, not a dream list of things you might like one day, but things you really need or would really like to have in the near future.  Check the items off of the list as you acquire them. 

4. Have a place for everything and everything in its place and learn, as a family, to always put things back where they belong.  In the case of an emergency where one has to leave before putting something back, teach other family members to put the thing away for the one called away on emergency.

5. Know where everything is by placing the items in logical locations. 

6. Give the immediate family a tour of their organized home, showing them where things are now placed.  This may sound funny, but it’s important.  After the tour, have a discussion with your children about putting things back where they belong.  This is a fun discussion and children usually bring-up very good points and thoughts on the subject.  This also helps everyone appreciate their family home, gives Mother esteem in the eyes of herself and her family because she is doing her job as the home manager very well, gives Dad a sense of wholesome pride and appreciation in himself and among the family for providing for his family and giving his wife what she needs to do her job outstandingly, and puts everyone on the “same page” as concerns item placement and keeping the home nice and well-organized.

7. Give yourself a real pat on the back.  Taking your role as the family’s homemaker seriously and doing this job with such a sense of duty, wholesome pride, and love is something to be happy about.  Take a look around you at your clean, organized, beautiful home and tell yourself “Good job, loving Lady!”

Weekly Assignment: Create a Romantic Valentine’s Day

        This week’s Fascinating Womanhood ~ Alaska assignment is to create a romantic Valentine’s Day regardless of your budget!  Click the two links found here and here for two past posts of ideas about creating romantic atmospheres.  Even if no extras can be afforded to create romantic atmospheres, do what you can with what you have. 

 

 

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