The world of Fascinating Womanhood is a world in which both sexes - male and female – are of equal importance, equal human value, dignity, and worth, and each have distinct, time-tested, God created responsibilities to fulfill specific to each sex in marriage.  When each important sex lives as God created them, the harmony of true love on earth is reached.  Below are three examples of misconceptions about husbands’ and wives’ roles among many religious Americans as compared to the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood:

Misconception Number 1 - Men should tell women how they should look, how they should clean, what they should cook, and how to do their jobs in the home; the wife’s duty is to do as her husband says.

The Fascinating Way - A Fascinating Woman has a brilliant mind of her own as well as human dignity.  She doesn’t need her husband to tell her how to manage her home and care for herself, her children, and her husband; she loves them enough to care for herself and them magnificently, and she and her husband know this and are comforted by it.  Her husband doesn’t – and doesn’t need, have, or want to - tell her how to be a homemaker and or woman because she is a woman, and a marvelous one, at that!

Misconception Number 2 - A woman has no control or say over her body as concerns sex; her husband’s desire is her command.

The Fascinating Way - A woman’s whole body, including her reproductive organs, are hers, and she has every right to say “no” to her husband if she needs or desires to.  A Fascinating Wife does not give into sex when she doesn’t feel like it, for she knows that if she does, she will feel badly and her husband won’t be helped, either – in fact, both will suffer detrimental affects if her husband feels he can have sex with his wife against her will or when she honestly doesn’t want to.  It is a sexual sin to tear each other down sexually and opens the door to all sorts of sexual perversions when either a husband or his wife overpowers or manipulates one another in any way in regards to sexual activity.

A Fascinating Wife doesn’t withhold sexual relations from her husband (nor he from her) out of cruelty or meanness, either.  Both of them are dignified adults who enjoy wholesome sexual relations – and wholesome sexual relations can only be had by mutual, loving, ungrudging consent and consideration of one’s own and the other’s feelings and desires.

Misconception Number 3 - A religious wife must be so submissive that she regards herself as a doormat.

The Fascinating Way - In a Fascinating Marriage, the husband is the leader of his family, just as all groups of people (and a family is a group of people) need a leader (Americans need one president, police precincts need one captain, all fifty U.S. states each have one governor, etc.).  God appointed the husband to this position and it works out very well when a husband assumes this role with a sense of true love and fairness.  A Fascinating Wife has her hands quite full with nurturing her family, investing in her family, raising children, giving charitable service, and creating a home that is a paradise on earth, she is glad to not have to worry about the arduous details and work required to successfully lead the family on top of these things.  Her husband has the strength to lead in addition to providing the income for the family; he is free from his wife’s multi-faceted role and she is free from her husband’s strenuous role, and because of this, they can each thrive in their own roles which fit inexplicably, marvelously together to make a whole.  The husband and his wife, as well as the children, all work together to create an optimal family life.

Just because the husband of a Fascinating Wife leads his family doesn’t mean that his wife and children have no say in matters, au contraire – his wife is his most trusted confidant and advisor, and when decisions will affect his children, he often shares age-appropriate information with them about the matter and seeks their opinions and support.  A Fascinating Wife is also assertive when communicating with her husband about a leadership issue when she feels very keenly about it, and her husband expects and appreciates this, as her insight, even if it is relayed assertively at times, is invaluable to their family success.  It is he, though, who bears the responsibility to lead in love as he knows that he will one day stand before God and give an account of his leadership of his family – the group of people on earth that God chose him to provide for, protect, and lead on earth – to.  All family’s need a strong leader with a sense of chivalry, fairness, goodness, and who loves them and only has what is best for all of them in mind and in action (thinking of the importance of the police chief or the President of the U.S. is very helpful to women in understanding the familial role of leadership and submission).

A Fascinating Wife submits to her husband’s leadership just as those who live in a city submit themselves to the leadership of their mayor and like all U.S. citizens submit to our President’s leadership (if you don’t like our current President, think of one you do like).  Like all mayors have city council members and the President the Congress to work with and gain insight, information, and support from, so do our husbands in their families. 

A Fascinating Wife will not allow herself or her children to be misled into danger and or sin by her husband, and a good husband – and a lot of husbands really are good – knows this and won’t mislead his family or lead them into danger; he knows if he were to attempt to do so, he would lose his family until he chose a better path for them, because his wife truly loves him and won’t stand idly by while he hurts himself, her, and their family, she only wants the best of love, health, happiness, and prosperity for each famiy member. 

A devoted husband married to a Fascinating Wife holds his position as leader sacred and his family most dear, he is worthy of his wife’s and children’s respect and trust in his leadership, and even if they don’t understand all of his reasons for making certain decisions, they know and trust completely in the fact that everything he does is only for their good.  Imagine if every American home had such a leader, we would see America reach a state of thriving the likes of which it never has!

        In conclusion, Fascinating Womanhood teaches wives how to bring out the best in themselves and their marriages.  American women have countless choices, including the choice to improve their marriages with Fascinating Womanhood.  American women are free to choose whether they work outside of their homes, whether to get married, whether to have children, and all sorts of things, and no one can stop them; Fascinating Womanhood has never been about forcing any woman into any role she doesn’t want, but provides information for any woman seeking a happy, healthy marriage of mutual and self respect, dignity, and responsibilities fulfilled the Fascinating Way.